In spite of the fact that feelings and hormones effectively occupy all of us, ultimately marriage is a like a business contract. Make certain to create a checklist before meeting any potential soulmate and allude to it generously when your vision gets shady. Here are five key attributes for sisters to concentrate on when looking for their future Husband:
1. Commitment to Islam / Faith
A person with a long beard and he attends Jumuah prayers once a week is not the criteria you should base your judgement on. In fact you need to look deeper into that and determine; does he pray his 5 daily prayers? Does he give Zakat, Does he read and practice the Quran and Sunnah? And what levels are both of your Imaan at. Do you share the same beliefs?
If someone with whose piety and character you are satisfied comes to you, then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be disorder in the earth and a great deal of evil.” -The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), (At-Tirmidhi and others classified as Hasan)
2. Good Characteristics
The main proportion of a man’s character is the manner by which he treats his family. At that point there is the regular proposal to take note of how he treats the waiting staff– again obvious and like how we are coordinated to treat workers and representatives – reasonably and with deference.
A’isha (Ra) reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
إِنَّ مِنْ أَكْمَلِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِيمَانًا أَحْسَنُهُمْ خُلُقًا وَأَلْطَفُهُمْ بِأَهْلِهِ
Verily, the most complete of believers in faith are those with the best character and who are most kind to their families.
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2612
Respect how this potential mate collaborates with various types of individuals, would he say he is reliably kind and sympathetic? Are there warnings or might you want to be dealt with comparably by this man? Does he appear to be straightforward or does his non-verbal communication (body language) indicate something else?
3. Shared Values
This is the place it is fundamental that you are straightforward with yourself first and after that with your potential Husband. While you will be relied upon to be the essential parental figure of your future kids, how would you see yourself doing as such?
Do you anticipate that your future other half should invest a great deal of time & energy with the family or would you say you are content in the event that he is just a decent provider? Would you like to travel? Do you like to engage visitors regularly or very little by any means? Past bringing up kids, what are your other life objectives and by what method will you accomplish them? Will you generally want to work? Think about how your spouse can & may help you in accomplishing your objectives. When you meet with planned accomplices, get some information about their life objectives and way of life needs. Is it true that you will enable him to accomplish his objectives and the other way around?
You need to ensure that their is mutual agreements beforehand and set any objectives in motion before taking things to the next step. In this day and age it is common for couples wanting to have their own space and leave independently. Is your future spouse family oriented and do they have parents that they need to care for? In some cultures it is very common for everyone to live together but this can also harm the relationships in years to come.
4. A Family Oriented Person
Whilst today it is normal for a couple to have jobs at the start of the marriage, it is unreasonable to anticipate that this should proceed perpetually in the event that you plan to have your very own family. Is your potential spouse arranging towards a future in which he is the sole provider? Furthermore, would you say you are both speaking the truth about the timescale for your childbearing years? These things can’t be put off inconclusively. It is safe to say that is is prepared to be an entire family man?
This would most likely be one of the first factors that you would consider. To avoid too much triviality, it is essential to find your spouse attractive. Many individuals deny this is a quality women look at, But of course they do! Without any fascination there is a lot of room for Shaytan to play with the couple. Always ask yourself Do you like him? Are you attracted to him? Maybe at first instance he may not be ‘your type’ as such, but sometimes you fall for someones personality too, even if they are not too appealing to the eye at the first instance.
Notwithstanding having an agenda to keep you on track, additionally have a responsible friend, a relative or a great associate who knows you well and can go about as a sound boarding to reflect back to you when you are being reasonable versus when you are being harsh.
A true relationship is two unperfect people refusing to give up on each other
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